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[CW5X]

Still pretty serious. I hope he doesn't start bullying others. Do the teachers know about the knives involved?

[Micro Mike 21]

it was around a 6 inch pocket knife, he threatened but i know he has it, since he show it to a friend of me, now is is constantly setting people up to me so the beat and he doesn't get the duty. i few teachers have been picking this up and his is luckily stopping, i hope for him and other people he doesn't start bulliyng other people

Ok, now you have to get police involved with this, warn them bout this kid, also tell the mother of the kid who bullies you, inform anyone you can that will most definetly help you, this sounds serious, a 6 INCH POCKET KNIFE! You need safety, and other people need safety. I hope this ends fast.

[Witting]

Ok, now you have to get police involved with this, warn them bout this kid, also tell the mother of the kid who bullies you, inform anyone you can that will most defenitly help you, this sounds serious, a 6 INCH POCKET KNIFE! You need safety, and other people need safety. I hope this ends fast.

his father and mother don't say anything on it i have send letters to them telling them about it a few days ago and all they did was come to my house and saying "so what?", luckily i'm pretty sure after new year he will not be in my class anymore, so i hope then he finally stops

[Witting]

It's been a while but things haven't been getting better for a while now. One of my friends decided to start kicking me randomly for no reason at all for almost 1 month after that i just got crazy of it and I gave him a headbutt (I think it's called that way) which wasn't the best choice looking at it now. He and a friend of him are now putting the class up against me. It's getting so bad the teacher want's to not let the boys (and me) from my class to go on the school trip to bobbejaanland. I just don't know what to do with my life it's all starting to get worser and worser.

[SCM]

It really does sound like your friend is taking his anger out on you. Are they powerful kicks or just light ones? Your headbutting him seems to have caused him to seek revenge on you by turning your class against you. I'd strongly recommend you talk to a counselor about this, if that will help at all. May I ask what he has been doing to make your class start hating you?

[Witting]

The kicks depend some days they're light ones other days my leg is blue.
one day in history i was sitting behind him and he was talking with his neighbor and 2 girls in front of him about how they could get me and trying to lure me in so i would get punishment.
i heard a bit of it and then asked one of the girls which i know a bit what they were talking about and she
explained a bit more about their "plans" they haven't yet used them.

[timtimlaz]

I wouldn't really call him a friend if he does that to you on purpose. Was there anything you did that caused him to do this, besides the headbutt? Just try to talk to him and ask him to please stop. One of my teachers told me to do that and it actually worked. I hope that happens to you, and everyone else that gets bullied. So sad why people do this.

[SCM]

I wouldn't really call him a friend if he does that to you on purpose.

I must agree with Timonator here, especially since it sounds like some of those kicks leave bruises. Bullies bully because there's something in their lives that's not going well, and they feel the need to take it out on someone else. Seeing someone else in pain often makes the bully feel better. With that said, I'm sure your "friend" isn't doing too good.
Edit: I wish you the best of luck. I know what it's like to be a victim.

Edited by SCM, 18 May 2013 - 12:51 PM.

[Witting]

First off thanks for the support.

Tomorrow I have to go back to school and I just don't know how to react on what he does. I also have a groupwork thats due tomorrow where I have to work with him.


I have been thinking about the reason I'm being bulleid and I think it is twice (including the previous time) has to do with me changing schools and making new friends,
the fact I'm a bit too fat and because I'm 1 year ahead in class.

[Cobra Roller]

I'm not sure if you're in high school or middle school, but that makes all the difference. When I was in middle school, bullies were everywhere. I was at least a year younger than everyone in my grade. I tolerated bullying almost everywhere: the bus, classroom, bathroom, bus stop, and the cafeteria. Once high school rolled around, bullies kind of, well, disappeared. As we got more mature, we came to recognize that bullying has no sense to it. Everything changed. The 'popular' kids were the really smart ones with the great grades, and the losers were the 'cool' kids who did pot. Bullies are no different. They, from a young age are the 'runts of the litter' and to seek attention, they do whatever it takes, even if it means mentally and physically tormenting a fellow peer. Your bully sounds just like that, insecure, self-conscious about others' opinions about his actions and personality. Like everyone said before me, he's the one with the problem, not you. The 'bullied' are the ones who always win in the end. I warn you however, do not get down to his level. Take the high road.

[IOAgeek]

^Exactly dude you see what I mean too I get you now definetly!

[Witting]

Ok second try.
So things have been getting worse for me. I just can't been happy anymore anywhere at any time alos I've been getting a lot of suicidal thoughts. So they would finally see that there doing the GODDAMN wrong thing.

[SCM]

You have been mentally damaged from bullying, it sounds like you have become depressed because of it. Do you feel worthless or hopeless? Are you also becoming afraid of people? Being bullied is the reason I'm afraid of people I don't entirely trust. You really should see a counselor or psychologist on this. If it's getting to the point of suicidal thoughts, something should be mentioned. If this continues, the amount of mental damage you can get from this bullying is rather extreme. I've been in a similar time you're in; I've had suicidal thoughts, and I've had the entire class against me, hating me. I was literally the most hated person in the school. Just so you know, I can entirely relate to what you're feeling. Especially get help if the suicidal thoughts become more frequent. You seem to be bullied out of jealousy. Have you also noticed an increase in the rate of you being bullied? As I was saying earlier in this post, long-time exposure to being bullied can seriously hurt someone. To this day I'm still damaged from it. I'm not nice to myself, I feel like a waste of time to people, I'm depressed, and painfully shy. Again, I strongly encourage for you to get professional help, this would at least likely solve your depression-sounding problem.

[Witting]

thanks SCM for the reply but today things got worse.

while at school between lessons is just control of myself because i was so angry and gave one of my friends a very hard fist in the back. Because of that i had to go to the headmaster where i was crying for over half an hour just because of what i've done. I'm getting more and more depressed because of what i've done and luckily my friend understood me. this week al the bullies wil also have to go to the headmaster but I don't think it will help because the previous 2 times it didn't help either.

[SCM]

I highly doubt their visit to the headmaster would affect anything, as it seems they are dedicated bullies. Are they bullying anyone else, or is it just you? The only thing I would suggest is to try and stand up for yourself, to not present yourself as a punching bag. By this, I do not mean start violently attacking, as this could get you in trouble, thus making things worse and making you feel worse. This likely won't completely stop the bullying, but it just might take it down a notch. Have you considered seeing a psychologist? Also, is it just that class that hates you, or has everyone began hating you? If you can't stop being bullied, then maybe seeing a psychologist would keep the depression down. Just thought of something... is home-school at all possible?

[Witting]

They didn't even have to go to the headmaster but apperiantly he thinks it's fair to send me to detention. From now of on each time they even say something insulting to me I will make an email to the headmaster untill he notices he should better punish them.

[TheSUCKCrew]

And please keep in mind that not your entire class hates you. I doubt any of them hate you at all.
They are all just monkeys imitating each others behaviour. This stuff will stop dude.
During puberty, boys try to arrest attention (from girls) by teasing each other. It's only a matter of time untill the girls get to the age where they start telling the boys that they are dicks, and then it will gradually come to an end. Just gotta hang in there, try not to be a dick (...which is a general rule in life), and don't be afraid to tell them to shut the fuck up in a calm and assertive way once in a while. Don't let it come to a freak-out, just be polite in an alpha male way.

Edit: You could also try stabbing one of them in the face with a pair of scissors. That will send out a signal to the others, atleast. I'd keep that as a last resort though.

Edited by TheSUCKCrew, 31 May 2013 - 04:40 PM.

[Witting]

And please keep in mind that not your entire class hates you. I doubt any of them hate you at all.
They are all just monkeys imitating each others behaviour. This stuff will stop dude.
During puberty, boys try to arrest attention (from girls) by teasing each other. It's only a matter of time untill the girls get to the age where they start telling the boys that they are dicks, and then it will gradually come to an end. Just gotta hang in there, try not to be a dick (...which is a general rule in life), and don't be afraid to tell them to shut the fuck up in a calm and assertive way once in a while. Don't let it come to a freak-out, just be polite in an alpha male way.

Edit: You could also try stabbing one of them in the face with a pair of scissors. That will send out a signal to the others, atleast. I'd keep that as a last resort though.

I had plans to do the stabbing thing last week but my friend (the one I was going to rent the scissors from) asked them back right before it i think it was better that way.
but Monday one of the bully's asked openly to the teacher if i could not go on the school trip this Friday. I still haven't figured out why exactly they are targeting me or bullying in general, I guess it's a bullies thing.

[Dragon]

Did your bully problem solved?
Once a switched schools singer douchbags stated bulling me, i went straight to the principal, they were suspended and they never attempted to bully me again.
Also, where do you live?
Try checking the l local laws about knives and see the maximum size allowed and if his knife passes talk to your local police station.